We all want to be adored and cared for, however people have different ways to show and express them. The way you want to be loved can be different with what your partner wants to receive. That’s why sometimes, no matter how hard we try to offer someone a specific type of love language, we still feel like we’re not being seen. This is because everybody has their own emotional needs, and it can only be met with a specific course of action. Thus, it is indeed important that we are aware and we know how to observe and implement our partner’s love language.
If you’re not yet familiar with the different types of love languages and how to use them in a relationship, I’m here to give you a quick overview.
Here are the 5 love languages by Gary Chapman and how you can use them in your relationships!
This is a nonverbal use of body language and touch to show love. It can be hugs, small kisses, or even just by being close to each other. You can do this by randomly hugging your partner and holding him with your arms, hold their hand out of nowhere while sitting or walking together, lay your head on his chest, or give him small kisses on the cheeks. These things are what people, who have physical touch as their love language, long for, and it can be really upsetting for them for you to not be around.
Quality time is giving undivided and focused attention. Sharing meaningful activities or conversations with people that you love. People who have quality time as their love language believe that it’s crucial to spend a lot of time with their partner. So when you have a loved one who has this as their love language, here is what you can do:
It’s possible that sometimes life can be too busy and exhausting but always try to make time for your partner. A simple walk with meaningful conversations will already fulfill your partner’s love language or just by sitting together while you both play his favorite board game. Don’t be distracted when spending time with your other half, they won’t like it!
This shows thoughtfulness and making your partner feel like a priority. To fulfill this, always try to observe what your partner likes or what he wants when you are having conversations. Then secretly order from online or buy from a store, it doesn’t always have to be fancy gifts, for this type of love language, thoughts count the most.
Acts of Service
Always make them feel like you want to help lighten their load, and of course, actually help them. You can help them with the chores, if you think they look exhausted already, have the initiative to finish some of their basic errands. Cook them breakfast or arrange them a small dinner date. Giving them assistance to small tasks will make them feel cared for and loved.
Words of Affirmation
People with words of affirmation as their love language, want to be constantly encouraged, affirmed, appreciated, and to be heard. A simple compliment makes their entire day too! tell them “you look pretty with your new hair” and they will surely think of it the whole day! You can also appreciate them by saying “thank you for helping me out” simple kind words will fulfill their love tank.
Knowing how to use your partner’s love language can save you time and trouble. You’ll be able to cater them and avoid misunderstandings. You’ll be able to fulfill them in the right spots. It can be confusing and hard to understand at first but with patience and consistency, it will be truly worth it.